If you can get another mediator please do, He was assigned by the courts in our case. Even though my spouse is the one who cheated I felt Rheil was a mans man. When he issued the results he had my age off by 10 years and refused to fix it when I called. He also stated that a QDRO was to be done but not who was paying for the QDRO and what happens during the time it takes to process it-about 90 days so my ex gets to keep collecting and not have to give me any until the QDRO is done. Again when I called about this he refused to speak to me.